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Winners are not people who never fail, but people who never quit…

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Next in my series of loved proverbs and quotes is this saying “Winners are not people who never fail, but people who never quit”. There must not be one successful person in the world who has not failed at anything. It is also said that “Failure is the stepping stone to success”. If you have not failed in anything in life, success will definitely take longer to reach you. Luckily for me, I have failed a few times here and there and I don’t quit that easily either – hope lady success finds me soon! πŸ™‚

Here are a few people who had to take a few misses initially but made sure they didn’t quit to reach their successful state today:

  1. Bill Gates the creator of Microsoft stumbled with his first start-up and dropped out of Harvard to start his most successful company. 
  2. J.K. Rowling, author of the Harry Potter series of books, faced rejection of her manuscript 12 times before finally being accepted. 
  3. Steven Spielberg, director of extremely popular movies such as ‘Saving Private Ryan’, ‘Jurassic Park’, ‘BFG’, ‘ET’, ‘Schindlers list’, ‘Jaws’ was rejected twice by the ‘University of Southern California’s School of Cinematic Arts.’!!
  4. Albert Einstein’ – the brainy man born in 1879 was considered as a major failure by his father. He did not talk till he was 4 years old. He also joined college but almost dropped out. This is the person, who taught us the theory of relativity and more ground breaking work in Physics.

All the personalities listed suffered initial setbacks in their current glorious career. But it was their inherent trait to never quit that got them to the level they are today!

‘Winners are not people who never fail, but people who never quit’…

Cheers! πŸ™‚


This post is for alphabet ‘Q’ for the #BlogchatterA2Z challenge. The previous post can be found here.


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Never judge a book by its cover!

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In my favorite proverb series – this is yet another one ‘Never judge a book by its cover’!! – which means not to judge a person too quickly and by looking at only their outward appearance and demeanor. 

Almost all the proverbs seem to be leading us for a perfect life(good healthy eating habits, forgetting the past, moving on etc etc) which is next to impossible for all us… πŸ™‚ but we can still try to follow it to some extent at least…

Judging someone is something we are all guilty of…but sometimes, we judge somebody without knowing them totally and by external appearances alone.  We judge a person in a hurry just by looking at them or by speaking just a few words with them too. We label them quickly too (talkative, quiet, silent, pessimistic, optimist, studious, nerd, geek, no sense of humor etc etc) I have been guilty of judging somebody too quickly just by their appearance and finally realized how wrong I was too!(face palm!!)

All of us undergo many,many experiences in life and each of the experiences either mellows us down, makes us stronger or weaker. Even though there is a Tamil proverb “agathin azhagu mugathil theriyum”(The beauty of your mind is visible on your face) – more often than not, you cannot understand everything that a person has undergone just by looking at their face. Most of us maintain a happy and smiling face which holds many secrets! 

So, good to not judge a book by its cover but give all relationships some time to develop and grow!

This post is for alphabet ‘N’ of the #Blogchatter challenge. The previous post can be found here.

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Let bygones be bygones…

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In my most liked proverb series – here is the next one…

Ten years ago, I had a surgery and I cannot help thinking about it till today. “What if I had some things had happened differently?” – how would have my life been? This is my “flashback” many days… do you also rewind your life to some point in your life?

By the time we reach our late 20s or 30s , we all start having things in our life that we cannot banish. It might be that sour relationship, that terrible let down, that breach of trust, that bad accident or any other bad memory. I used to be a person who could never dismiss the past. I could cling to the past forever and forever. When it dawned on me one day, that carrying the past on my shoulders wasn’t doing anything good. Instead, it only got me disappointed. 

Finally, I read this proverb one day and realized how true it was. From that day, I have tried my level best to not dwell on past things and move forward in life. I haven’t stopped dwelling on the past entirely, but I certainly have learnt to look ahead and move forward. What had happened, had happened – and I had to move ahead….

How about you? Do you keep looking at the back and wonder “if this had not happened” or “if that had not happened” – how life would have been? It would be good to look ahead because we cannot change the past but we can certainly look to the future to make our life better! πŸ™‚

This post is for alphabet ‘L’ for the #BlogchatterA2Z challenge. The previous post can be found here.

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Keep your mouth shut and eyes open!

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This proverb as a poster was given to my daughter and I haven’t agreed with anything more than this(along with the proverbs in the series! :))

If only most of the world were to follow this – if only.. how would the world be if there were a lot less of talking and more observing?

  1. Lesser arguments
  2. Lesser misunderstandings
  3. Lesser quarrels 
  4. We would understand more
  5. Better relationships! πŸ™‚


I am sure many or all of us have been caught in circular conversations – wherein we say one thing to person( as a “secret”!) and that person tells the same thing to another person(as a secret again :)) and by the end, everybody knows the “secret” and the first person comes and asks you “Can’t you just keep a secret?” and you wonder “Why didn’t I just keep my mouth shut in the first place?”


Social media may be a powerful tool today to spread messages around but the human mouth is the always strongest news spreader! πŸ™‚ And to top it all, it cannot be documented too. Sometimes, news spreads like wildfire just by a word of mouth.

Which is why in Information security, the weakest link in any security perimeter is always the human factor(or the human mouth in our case!) How is this even possible – you might think – we have the greatest firewall, anti-virus software and all the security safeguards and we might still get hacked. How? Because some person, might have the leaked the password to a database to another person and this might have landed in the wrong person’s hands. If only, they kept their mouth shut and did not tell the password…if only…

In an ideal world our mouths would be shut at incorrect times and our eyes would be open all the time… πŸ™‚ but since we are all mere mortals, we could try and follow the proverb to the best of our efforts by talking less and observing more!

This post is for alphabet ‘K’ for the #BlogchatterA2Z challenge. The previous post can be found here. 

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A journey of a thousand miles…

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….begins with a  single step!! Next in my line of favorite quotes is this one…

I signed up for the Blogchatter challenge with a lot of apprehension. The month of April is always an interesting one for me. Both my children’s exams get over that time. Their summer vacations begin that time too. If you thought, having small kids at home and working(writing) from home is hard, think again! Older kids are also a lot of work!! Many a time, I have two pairs of eyes always peeking into my laptop – wondering what I am going to be writing about next πŸ™‚ They have their summer classes, entrance exams, play dates, and are constantly going in and out of the house with their friends…and you get the point…it is a busy house! πŸ™‚

To top it all – we had also planned for short trips wherein I knew I would not have time to write posts then and there. How will I be able to manage writing 26 posts one for each and every day of April? (except for Sundays) I knew I had to take the first step and decide to do it. Then, I had to draw a plan. Yes, I am a planner and I have been able to stick to it so far, even though I have been traveling through the A2Z challenge.

So, how have I been able to do it so far? By taking the first step of deciding to do it. Yes, friends – ‘the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step’ is so true for me for the #Blogchatter challenge and for many mammoth tasks too. 

Once the first step was taken, all other activities have followed and I have got some direction on how to proceed and complete it.

The Blogchatter challenge runs all through April and it isn’t over yet. Wish me luck to complete it!

This post is for alphabet ‘J’ for the #Blogchatter challenge. The previous post can be found here

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Health is wealth

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When we are young, health is never an issue(in most cases atleast!) We have the normal growing pains and we get the same cold, cough, fever, allergies etc etc But as we age and our school days and college days give way to career ways and matrimony – we get caught in an interesting cycle. Family pressure, work pressure, stress from all quarters and our ability/inability to handle them brings new diseases into our life. Many are life style diseases and some are passed down to us from our parents/grandparents too! πŸ™‚

While most diseases go away after a while(even the more serious ones) or we learn to manage them(any which way – exercise, medicines, will power, mental strength) it is just the journey of undergoing the process(from diagnosing the disease, to the various tests, to treatment and beyond) that totally exhaust us. 

There is no greater saying than this proverb “Health is wealth” according to me…we can be “aggressive”, “smart”, “intelligent”, “greatest multi-tasker” and every other positive adjective in the world – but it all comes from having one thing in our life – “good health”. If this “good health” is taken away from us – everything else vanishes with it. We focus all our energies on curing the disease that rids us(or any other loving person who gets it) and this truly shakes our foundations and all our beliefs. The way we handle things when “health” is taken away from us is true “strength”.

Proactive health management:

With so much importance riding on our health, what better thing to do than being proactively healthy? Though none of us are perfect, we can still do a few things to keep ourselves healthy:

  1. Eat well without too much of junk(of course, we do allow the taste buds to take over once in a while! :))
  2. Exercise everyday
  3. Learn something new every month 
  4. Try to be positive most of the time
  5. Have a good social life
  6. Laugh πŸ™‚

I am no angel and I do fail to do most of the things that I have listed πŸ™‚ – but these tips will surely keep some health woes out of our way for some time at least!! 

Wealth is an absolute necessity in life – but without “health” – how will you make “wealth”?

This post is for alphabet ‘H’ for the #BlogchatterA2Z challenge. The previous post can be found here.

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No one in this world can love a girl as much as her father…

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Lakshmi thought her father was the greatest man. She adored him to bits. The father-daughter bond was created as soon as she was born. From the time she was young, she was struck by his aura. He was the wittiest and greatest father, she thought.

Did you know that it is hard for an adult to come to a child’s level and interact with them? Well, he could do just that… just by magic, he could become a small child and entertain her for hours.

He taught her how to bicycle and how did all the work of running behind her when she was learning to balance on the wheels. That was a lot of work… running behind a school kid on a bicycle who is forever ready to topple and fall – but he did it all the same! He stood by her in all her difficult times. He would attend all the PTMs at school with sincerity. If her grades ever slipped, he never reprimanded her for not getting good grades. Instead, he always taught her how to approach the same problem in a different way and solve it.

School admissions, college admissions, college projects – he would be there to see her through it all! 

 He always taught her life’s most important lessons. As she grew up, he taught her how to dress up well, be smart, study smart, and to be a totally “out-of-the-box” thinker. He always wanted her to be “smart” and “independent”!!

He was a terrific orator. He could keep her and all her friends spellbound with his talks and witty anecdotes. 

Are you nodding your head and thinking the same thing(or similar things) about your father too? πŸ™‚

No wonder there is a saying “No one can love a girl as much as her father”!! Fathers are great – whether they are fathers of daughters or sons -aren’t they? πŸ™‚

What is your father story? How was this quote about fathers?

This post is for alphabet ‘F’ of #BlogchatterA2Z. The previous post can be found here

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Better late than ever!

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Lakshmi had just been married. She loved studying and wanted to pursue higher education. There were good universities at the place where she stayed too. But things just did not work out for her to study then. There were other obstacles along the way too. Then, they moved from location to another to another. There were 2 more little characters in the story too! This new world kept her absorbed in its grasp. Thoughts of studying were delegated to the most distant corner of her brain. She did not know whether they existed at all!

And one fine day, when her younger one was 2, she heard an advertisement on the radio for higher education and then applied for the Master’s program. She knew she had to study then or it would be never!

There were many thoughts on why she would want to study after 2 kids from different people…

But better late than never, right? πŸ™‚ And she “had” to do it…

Incidentally, she did complete her Master’s program through God’s grace and was finally happy that she accomplished the goal that she was chasing for almost 12 years!

What about you – have you been thinking of doing something and did you finally get to do it? Hurray for you!! πŸ™‚ And always ‘BETTER LATE THAN EVER’, know?!! πŸ™‚

This is the second post for the #BlogchatterA2Z. The first post can be found here.




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Theme Reveal – A to Z Challenge 2019!

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I had participated in the A to Z challenge hosted by Blogchatter last year and it was awesome! This year around, as the news was buzzing around – I knew I would be participating again… why – because I enjoyed writing and reading!! πŸ™‚ Last year my theme was technical posts along with personal thoughts…

This year, as the day of theme reveal drew near, I was still racking my brains on a theme… there was “this” thought, then there was “that” thought…finally, I think I may have figured what my theme will be…there will be technical posts infused with personal thoughts – but my personal thoughts will border on proverbs that touched me in my life.


So, keep me motivated by reading and commenting on my posts! πŸ™‚ 

See you on the sunny side of April!! πŸ™‚

Note: ‘A to Z challenge’ is when we write posts for each letter of the English alphabet – as an example , ‘A’ for authentication, ‘B’ for biometrics and so on…

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Is the Indian education system good enough?

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There are different ways to study – but the the Indian system of studying still relies mostly on memorizing (hopefully with some understanding! :))  Most schools in India have a textbook for each subject(or many textbooks might be prescribed for a single subject too) and there will be a notebook(s). These are some ways to study that is followed in a majority of schools in India even today:

  1. A chapter is completed
  2. Questions given at the back of the chapter will be discussed
  3. The answers will be written in the notebook
  4. In addition, ‘Fill-in-the blanks’, ‘Give reasons’, ‘Make sentences’, ‘meanings’, ‘opposites’ are some sort of exercises that will additionally be done.

Schooling in the US:

Now, contrast this with the US education system which we were a part of, for about 9 years. All my son took to his elementary school was just a simple folder and all he got as homework was just a Math worksheet till 3rd grade…!! πŸ™‚ Now things might have changed after middle school but the US way of studying is fundamentally different from India’s and children are equally smart and intelligent here and there. The US and Western means of education rely predominantly on research and tabulating the findings by means of writing. Research, practical skills and writing skills are an important part of Western education right from a young age. 

Indian system:

Now coming back to the Indian system, there are several ‘naysayers’ and ‘ayesayers’ for the Indian education system which include the two main boards, CBSE and ICSE – while, which board you choose for your child depends on you, it is all but certain that they have to face the board exams at the same time ie. in grade X and grade XII.

With the Indian Xth and XIIth grade board exams currently underway in all of India – we always come to the ultimate  question:

‘How good is the Indian education system’?

Is memorizing way of studying good enough?

Are the students only memorizing or are they understanding and studying as well?

With this type of education system, how do they manage in corporate environments later in life?

The reality as I see it:

Interestingly most of them do well in life and corporate environments later in life. Most of the Indian students adjust very well to Western education system as they migrate to foreign countries for higher degrees too. Since the medium of instruction is English for many of us in India, most do research and write papers with ease. They acclimatize easily and get top grades too.

They also get good job offers from organizations abroad and most of them adapt very well there too…

 Now, our education system is not too bad…is it? πŸ™‚ 

Seriously though, learning anything new is hard and memorizing and studying it is even harder. The sheer volume to study by means of memorizing petrifies many students and creates an ugly feeling of learning.

The memorizing way of studying has to be overhauled as it is quite stressful for the children who go through it especially at higher grades.  But change never happens in an instant and is a constant and gradual process.. and I can already see a lot of changes with e-learning industry (like BYJUs) slowly creating its footprint to make the students understand the concepts much more clearly. 

Here’s to better education for India and making learning a much more pleasant experience for the students… πŸ™‚